there’s a different between being a nice guy and being a “Nice Guy”
a “Nice Guy” is nice to someone because he likes them and then thinks because he is nice and does all these things he ‘deserves’ whoever he likes to like him back or date him or do sex to him.
Yes. This is a good post. I see people throwing the term around at guys who are just being nice, without having expressed any sort of ulterior motive or expectation that they should receive something in turn. And it sort of makes me sad when a guy gets condemned just for showing common decency, for the sake of being a decent human being, and not because he expected to get a girlfriend.
And I mean there’s one little thing I have to nitpick with this. I see this scenario get called out a lot as “Nice Guy Syndrome” and I have to disagree: there’s nothing inherently evil about saying “Gee, I really like that girl, I think she could be someone I want to date, I will demonstrate to her my affection through deeds, for actions speak louder than words! But I will only do this occasionally and when the time is appropriate, such as asking her out for dinner on a Friday or giving her a birthday gift or giving her a call at a date and time when I know she is otherwise unoccupied so that we can have a conversation about common interests! And perhaps this will encourage her, if she feels the same, to do the same for me, and if I get a positive response, then I will bring up the idea that we might be compatible partners!” That’s, you know. How you court someone…
Two different but complementary posts on the difference between actual nice guys and manipulative “Nice Guys.” Radiation’s original post does a good job of laying out the foundations, and Tessen builds on that with a great, balanced elaboration.
Yes, it sucks when kind actions are used to play mind games and justify scumbaggery, but it equally sucks when people end up rejecting genuine kindness because of jerks.
Captured by legendary photographer Mark Shaw for LIFE Magazine in 1957 is a model at Paris Louvre Metro Station wearing a gray Christian Dior dress.
(Source: wicked-eye, via baconistasty)
A fusion of Indo-Islamic architecture coupled with Gothic art form. Mahabat Maqbara, Junagadh, Gujarat.
oh my god
oh my GOD
WHERE IS THE BOOK/COMIC/MOVIE/WHATEVER WITH A SETTING LIKE THIS
the Fall! Except also bonus use of California Spanish architecture as the “real” framing world so you have fusions on both sides of the mirror.